The Journey and Process of an Embodied Relation Design Expedition
In the Embodied Relation Design Expedition, crafted by Hanne De Smedt – Your Desire Coach, the central focus is the transformation from the Drama Triangle to the Dream Triangle. This process is enabled by personal growth in awareness and the embodiment of new approaches to dealing with personal and relational challenges.
Phase 1: The drama triangle
In this phase, individuals primarily operate unconsciously, influenced by their internal triggers. The Drama Triangle has three roles: victim, accuser, and rescuer. Emotions are often projected outward, placing blame and fostering reactionary patterns. Pain or conflict is attributed to others without recognizing one’s own contribution to the process.
Phase 2: Awareness of triggers
Transformation begins by recognizing triggers as originating within oneself rather than projections onto others. This phase emphasizes acknowledging emotions and shadow aspects as part of one’s inner world. Awareness allows individuals to observe their emotions without fully identifying with them, fostering an open and reflective attitude.
Phase 3: Communication from the dream triangle
In the Dream Triangle, responses are guided by self-reflection and accountability. When triggers arise, individuals can express them without blame. For instance, by saying:
"I notice that this triggers something in me, and I’d like to share it," or giving space to the other:
"I see this affects you; let’s explore it together."
This approach nurtures growth and connection while avoiding destructive patterns.
Inner world rituals as a key element
An essential part of the process is the use of Inner World Rituals, which deepen the connection to one’s body and emotions. Daily reflection on physical sensations—such as the color, shape, or temperature of feelings—sharpens inner perception. This awareness enables timely recognition of triggers and the ability to address them mindfully rather than reacting automatically.
Relationship and sexual design
The Dream Triangle provides a framework for discussing the dynamics of the relationship, including the sexual aspect. Differences in love languages or needs are reframed as opportunities for creation and alignment. For example, a partner with an energetic eros love language can connect with one with a sexual eros love language through open communication, exploration of shared possibilities, or new relationship models rooted in creativity and solution-focused approaches.
The Dream Triangle encourages partners to take a “helicopter view” of their relationship, envisioning new possibilities from a place of trust and mutual respect.
A practical example
One practical step in this process could involve incorporating tantric massage as a bridge between energetic and sexual needs. By learning and practicing these skills, partners create a shared foundation where both feel seen and fulfilled.
A transformative journey
With the guidance of Hanne De Smedt – Your Desire Coach, this journey toward awareness and growth is supported. The goal is to embody the skills necessary to move from the Drama Triangle to the Dream Triangle, fostering flourishing relationships and enabling partners to connect on a deeper, more conscious level.
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