Coaching through Divorce: How to Guide Clients During Change and Transformation

Between 40 and 50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce. Divorce is extremely difficult emotionally, socially and physically. Some of the primary things that come up during divorce are how relationships within a family will change post-divorce, parenting arrangements, and conflicts that may arise. Divorce can create an overwhelming amount of stress that impacts both parents and children. With the right guidance and support, a new foundation can be built on which a divorcee can begin crafting a new life for themselves.

After a divorce, some people experience the world as though they are coming out of a shell they have been living in for ages. As a coach, being able to support your clients emotionally after a breakup or divorce can help them find reconciling paths with their ex-partners and guide them through life after divorce.

Emotional effects of divorce

When you prepare for a coaching session with your client going through a divorce or breakup, you must understand how a divorce would affect your client emotionally. Dealing with divorce can result in a multitude of overwhelming feelings in a person, such as:

Heartache - Divorce results in a separation from a loved one, often creating sadness, disappointment, as well as feelings of loneliness.
Frustration - Ex-partners may channel their anger toward the ex-spouse or everything that surrounds the reason for divorce. This self-directed frustration can also result from the inability to keep the marriage intact and feeling like a failure.
Anxiety - Divorce brings changes, which is bound to create a lot of fear. Concerns about how clients will stay afloat financially, arrangements to share responsibility for children, or even the fear of solitude tend to dominate their thoughts for sometimes long periods.
Embarrassment and remorse - Some clients may be embarrassed at the thought of splitting since they could not hold the marriage together or have children who undoubtedly will be or are affected.

How can a divorce coach help you regain control and find a new direction after a divorce?

A divorce coach provides you with the assistance necessary to go through the chaotic turn of events surrounding a divorce and find the support you need during such trying times.

They will help you set goals, make informed decisions, and try to get your life back in control. A divorce coach will help you to get clarification about your feelings to deal with the anger or guilt. They will help you to think through workable strategies regarding co-parenting, financing, and legal preparations. Empowered and prepared, you will be able to move forward and concentrate on creating a stable and fulfilling life after divorce.

It’s important to note that divorce coaches are not legal counsil. With the exception of a few cases where they may accompany you to divorce mediation, divorce coaches usually do not attend court sessions or meditation with you. Divorce coaches come from all walks of life. Some are lawyers, others are mental health professionals, financial planners, or just people who have been through divorce themselves and got trained and certified as a coach. Some coaches have certification in divorce coaching, but it is not mandatory. As shown in this video, the divorce coach acts as your support partner.

Why would anyone need a Divorce Coach?

A divorce is often complex and emotionally draining, so much so that many people need help from a divorce coach. Divorce coaches help their clients emotionally navigate the range of issues involved, assisting them in seeing clearly in a very confusing time. They act as sympathetic guides, helping develop strategies and tools to use in difficult situations, such as negotiating with lawyers, discussing custody with ex-partners, and rebuilding a new life after divorce.

Divorce coaches also work on developing self-belief and resilience. For individuals full of self-doubt or anxiety about the future, a divorce coach helps to bring back a sense of empowerment by encouraging healthier patterns of coping and giving practical ways to regain control of their lives. The divorce coach also helps set goals that help clients from the mindset of defeat to that of opportunities for growth and reinvention. 

A divorce life coach offers valuable support and guidance before, during, and after the divorce process. They guide you through options and manage the emotional and practical aspects of the journey. According to Custody Change, a divorce coach can help you with finding a lawyer, creating a parenting plan, supporting you through the whole process of divorce and advocating for your child’s best interest.

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